Ok, let's put it to use. I agree with what you're saying but take this example - Girl at work is flirty, always looks my way, tries to get me to talk to her. After a shift at work where there is massive tension between us, I ask for her #. I get it, you can read the rest here. So the next shift we work together, I still talk to her, but I'm not flirty. I just keep it professional. She continues to initiate conversation, especially the flirty kind, but I don't give in. She eventually tells me "I don't appreciate you giving me the cold shoulder."

Since she did reject my advances, why should I continue to feed her good emotions? My question to you is how am I to learn what I did wrong? I want to learn and to know, but many times I feel like I have a girls' interst I somehow take a misstep and she ends up wanting me to chase her, which I am not down for. So, how can I learn from my mistakes when I only have my limited scope/perspective to gather info from? This one instance was just an example, this happens to me kinda often actually.