Well, that's where we differ. I would never say I am dating someone because we hung out a couple of times. Males and females do have friendships and do hang out and it ends up that they just become friends - that nothing romantic develops. I wouldn't say I am dating someone unless it was romantic in some way. I wouldn't think that the guy wanted to or was ready to get official and date me if we hung out three times and in that whole time he hadn't at the very least said he wanted it to be romantic - but we shy or nervous or whatever it is. When I say I dated someone, it means I dated them - not I hung out with them three times in a completely platonic way. He even says he was getting the feeling nothing was going to happen. This isn't the love of his life who went behind his back with his best friend and they had a secret relationship. I get that you would sever a relationship with someone you call your best friend if he got together with someone you barely know and have hung out with 3 times. I look at it like it wasn't meant to be for me and maybe it is for them. I'll meet someone. Best friends are hard to come by. I don't own a person just because I have a crush on them. If it's not happening with us, that's the way it goes. I'd be disappointed. For me, I wouldn't feel that a knife had been driven through my heart by a supposed friend who turned out to be a deceitful, conniving enemy. However, if I was actually dating someone (as in what dating generally means) - I would feel betrayed. Definitely. I've had a lot of girlfriends who dated guys I had massive crushes on and had gone to shows with, hung around with - platonically. And I did my best to be cool about it and be happy for them. The guy didn't like me as in wanting to date me - liked me as a buddy. He liked my friend and wanted to go out with her. That's how it happens sometimes. Anyways - I say that with some twenty years of dating behind me and being in all kinds of situations and married now. There's plenty of real, actual, serious heartache and pain and for me, personally, I have come to know the difference between something small and something big. I'm not saying he shouldn't be honest with his friend if he feels hurt or shouldn't say that in the future, do things differently. I am just saying I don't think (based on his story) that it's a friendship-ending event and things happen for a reason and he'll meet the right person. It's not this girl for right now, at least. The timing might be off. I've also known a guy for years and always thought he was cute and then ended up dating him finally. The timing wasn't right before for whatever reason. I don't want the guy to feel terrible and chances are he'll be in the same position some day with the roles reversed.