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Jon Stewart on Letterman During the Blizzard of '96 by LetsGetRamblinin videos

[–]bobored 1 point2 points ago

Me too! I was living in Williamsburg on North 8th and Bedford. We were stranded out there.

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new haircut by boboredin funny

[–]bobored[S] 0 points1 point ago

ah, yes - alpaca! pardon me.

My best friend had sex with a girl that I have feelings for. I feel like crawling into a hole and dying. RA can you please work your magic... by justincasethrowaway1in relationship_advice

[–]bobored 1 point2 points ago

Well, that's where we differ. I would never say I am dating someone because we hung out a couple of times. Males and females do have friendships and do hang out and it ends up that they just become friends - that nothing romantic develops. I wouldn't say I am dating someone unless it was romantic in some way. I wouldn't think that the guy wanted to or was ready to get official and date me if we hung out three times and in that whole time he hadn't at the very least said he wanted it to be romantic - but we shy or nervous or whatever it is. When I say I dated someone, it means I dated them - not I hung out with them three times in a completely platonic way. He even says he was getting the feeling nothing was going to happen. This isn't the love of his life who went behind his back with his best friend and they had a secret relationship. I get that you would sever a relationship with someone you call your best friend if he got together with someone you barely know and have hung out with 3 times. I look at it like it wasn't meant to be for me and maybe it is for them. I'll meet someone. Best friends are hard to come by. I don't own a person just because I have a crush on them. If it's not happening with us, that's the way it goes. I'd be disappointed. For me, I wouldn't feel that a knife had been driven through my heart by a supposed friend who turned out to be a deceitful, conniving enemy. However, if I was actually dating someone (as in what dating generally means) - I would feel betrayed. Definitely. I've had a lot of girlfriends who dated guys I had massive crushes on and had gone to shows with, hung around with - platonically. And I did my best to be cool about it and be happy for them. The guy didn't like me as in wanting to date me - liked me as a buddy. He liked my friend and wanted to go out with her. That's how it happens sometimes. Anyways - I say that with some twenty years of dating behind me and being in all kinds of situations and married now. There's plenty of real, actual, serious heartache and pain and for me, personally, I have come to know the difference between something small and something big. I'm not saying he shouldn't be honest with his friend if he feels hurt or shouldn't say that in the future, do things differently. I am just saying I don't think (based on his story) that it's a friendship-ending event and things happen for a reason and he'll meet the right person. It's not this girl for right now, at least. The timing might be off. I've also known a guy for years and always thought he was cute and then ended up dating him finally. The timing wasn't right before for whatever reason. I don't want the guy to feel terrible and chances are he'll be in the same position some day with the roles reversed.

Victorian era sleep mask by boboredin Pictures

[–]bobored[S] 0 points1 point ago

From the dealer listing: "Mask made in the Victorian era from hand stitched linen. The mask part is stiff with eyes that have been drawn in. The beautiful details include a silk ribbon, stepped hem and quilting. This amazing piece of history would make for a unique art piece."

My best friend had sex with a girl that I have feelings for. I feel like crawling into a hole and dying. RA can you please work your magic... by justincasethrowaway1in relationship_advice

[–]bobored 0 points1 point ago

No, according to his post, they were not dating. Re-read. He said he had never made a move on her and they were hanging out as friends.

My best friend had sex with a girl that I have feelings for. I feel like crawling into a hole and dying. RA can you please work your magic... by justincasethrowaway1in relationship_advice

[–]bobored 0 points1 point ago

Did he go behind his back? I thought they were all out together and his friend left with the girl? Also - he hung out with the girl - so he wasn't "seeing" the girl. They were hanging out platonically. I guess it all depends. If I told my friend I thought a guy was cute and was hoping to get with him, but weeks later I am still in the friend zone and pretty much thinking that's what it's going to be - I wouldn't be angry at my friend if the guy ended up liking her and they hooked up. It seems like his friend knew that it hadn't turned romantic after 3 dates. It doesn't seem like his friend jumped before the guy had his chance? I guess it sounds like the guy's feelings for this girl are of the crush variety and we all have times where our friend likes someone and that someone is interested in us. Doesn't seem like a situation worth making a big deal. Also, speaking as a female -- if I like a guy romantically, I don't go home with his friend.

Victorian era sleep mask by boboredin Pictures

[–]bobored[S] 0 points1 point ago

I think it does, actually. I had to take a close look. It seems like there is fabric behind the eye slits with eyeballs filled in?

new haircut by boboredin funny

[–]bobored[S] 4 points5 points ago

they got stuck in the shears, sadly - haircut casualty - you know...

new haircut by boboredin funny

[–]bobored[S] 1 point2 points ago

you think the llama is feeling the same swagger? maybe he's waiting for it to kick in.

new haircut by boboredin funny

[–]bobored[S] 9 points10 points ago

They are butchers - with zero concern for your dignity.

I only hope it's not looking at me... by boboredin creepy

[–]bobored[S] 1 point2 points ago

OK - that just made me laugh aloud as I am sitting here alone (well, with the cat). That's perfect. And makes it seem much less scary.

I found a swim suit that fits my boobies! by LXY820in TwoXChromosomes

[–]bobored 0 points1 point ago

Their plus-size section is awesome. My boobs are pretty easy to shop for - my ass however - NOT AT ALL. I like my clothing big on me and always take a gander at what they have over there. I have found a lot of super cute items.

How I feel every day... Do you feel the same? by HelloMellowin Anxiety

[–]bobored 2 points3 points ago

There seems to me a need for an understanding of graphs here - but anxiety when it gets dark, when one has to sleep is super common. That was my case for sure. It actually helped me to use some small things like Sleepytime Tea or valerian from the health food store as night came on. That stuff is so milld - but it can take some of the edge off that might creep in. I always tried to read a good book that would transport me before sleeping.

Okay book lovers, I love this subreddit and want to give something back. by OhEmGeeein books

[–]bobored 0 points1 point ago

“Los Angeles come to me the way I came to you, my feet over your streets, you pretty town I loved you so much, you sad flower in the sand, you pretty town.”

John Fante (1280 x 800)

My best friend had sex with a girl that I have feelings for. I feel like crawling into a hole and dying. RA can you please work your magic... by justincasethrowaway1in relationship_advice

[–]bobored 0 points1 point ago

It sucks to feel as if an opportunity passed you by. I have been on both sides of this situation. As nothing had happened between you and and tis girl after a space of time and she clearly had an interest in your friend (and he her I assume) - he went for it. Now, it could turn out that (perhaps) that they are perfect for each other. What's meant to be, will be. I do agree that if you have a romantic interest, declare it early on. But, that didn't happen. Maybe it's not meant to happen. As your feelings are of the crush variety (you didn't date her, fall in love, yadda), and your friend sounds like someone you're close to - I would chalk it up to this is how things happened for now. You don't know what will happen later. She could be a nightmare. There is so much unknown here - save for the fact that this guy is your friend. Life is long. We all win sometimes and lose sometimes. Try to see the bigger picture if you can? Why does it feel like someone shot a bullet through your chest? That sounds really intense considering this is a girl you haven't hooked up with, who you were just getting to know.

Chances are there will come a time when you end up getting together with someone a friend of yours likes. You'll want them to understand.

You call this guy you "best friend" -- comparatively - the girl is nothing. I am not a guy -- but don't they always say "bros before hos?"

Try to put yourself on the other side and try to consider there's a long life ahead of you with all kinds of situations and that if you don't hook up, you're maybe not meant to hook up for all sorts of reasons. Try to have a little patience with life and not put so much importance on a small thing (although I know it feels big right now and sucks).

Meanest prank I've ever seen. by viishruggedin videos

[–]bobored -1 points0 points ago

Ah yes, perceptive. Several times in fact. It takes more than common sense and empathy to intuit when something is wrong. Indeed.

Hey reddit, my girlfriend just blew off the "date" she made for us where she planned on breaking up with me. What heartlessness have any of you experienced from exes? by Izzy131in AskReddit

[–]bobored 0 points1 point ago

I am sure what you're going through feels like shit - but the passive aggressive blow-off is a hallmark of break-ups. Most people just act cold or distant and force you to confront them. Considering what CAN happen - consider your current situation mild. I have had friends with weddings canceled the day before, money stolen by spouses, boyfriends who turned out to be total psychos who talked them.

Just bid her farewell and move on to the next. The majority of dating has a limited life span and it's nice if the break-up is a fizzle rather than a nuclear explosion.

Reddit, what is the coolest aspect of life that was not taught to you. Something you learned by experience or discovery? by DillPixelin AskReddit

[–]bobored 2 points3 points ago

I came here to say something of the same order - beings 41 myself. I have learned the things I thought were really important - really were not. I have learned that life is short and it starts to get much harder as you you wind up your 30s and start into the 40s. My very first boyfriend died of a heart attack. I just had another friend die of cancer - and he was only 35. My husband who is my age, went through a bout with cancer. Nowadays, happiness is a day where nothing goes terribly wrong, a day when my husband is still free of cancer and here with me. It makes me happy to just lie in bed and read a magazine. I get much more enjoyment from much smaller things. I don't care what people think about me. I know what I am good at and what I am not. I don't go hard on myself and I am understanding of other's faults or shortcomings. Life is more peaceful in a lot of ways now that I see how bad it can get.

Meanest prank I've ever seen. by viishruggedin videos

[–]bobored 0 points1 point ago

Well, it's good to know you're up for having someone do something extremely shitty to you when you did nothing to deserve it. And I hope everyone you know gets to see you humiliated via video. I hope it makes for a good laugh when it happens. Hopefully no one around you will have morals and thus sympathy for you. THAT would make it extra funny. Right?

Meanest prank I've ever seen. by viishruggedin videos

[–]bobored 0 points1 point ago

I didn't know about what had come before, but assumed they were doing pretty awful things to one another based on this prank. My only point was they should keep to each other. If they're up for having horrible things happen to them - that's fine. I just felt bad for the girlfriend - not for the guy - not at all. I think it would have been funny if the girlfriend was in on the joke. The prank war is between the two guys and it sucks for her.

Hi, /r/booksuggestions, would you please recommend me something? by gallezin booksuggestions

[–]bobored 1 point2 points ago

Have you read FAHRENHEIT 451 yet? It goes hand in hand with BRAVE & ANIMAL.

There's a great China Mieville book that is very much in the mode of those books - political and social allegory beneath a genre facade. It's called THE CITY & THE CITY.

Have you read any Margret Atwood? Her work is also similar to the books you have mentioned that you like. I liked ORYX & CRAKE.

LORD OF THE FLIES and HEART OF DARKNESS are two other great, classic novels with very interesting characters and social ideas - if you have not read those.

Meanest prank I've ever seen. by viishruggedin videos

[–]bobored 3 points4 points ago

the douchebag idiot who staged this asinine prank

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