Well, that was unexpected.

TheCorpse · 2012-05-26T19:30:25.324548+00:00

Thank you for compiling this.

TheCorpse · 2012-05-26T19:28:51.889384+00:00

yoru

TheCorpse · 2012-05-26T18:42:24.393567+00:00

Not sure if trolling... Japan is very much outwardly racist towards Chinese and Koreans.

wlav · 2012-05-26T17:46:26.652038+00:00

This video is well documented to be fake. Removed.

Superking890 · 2012-05-26T16:13:57.707896+00:00

Japanese tsukemono

anotheranotherother · 2012-05-26T16:06:30.850234+00:00

I just want to say that, as a moderator and active /r/seduction poster, I think what you are doing is fucking hilarious. Keep doing what you're doing :)

fishyMcFish · 2012-05-26T16:01:05.125826+00:00

If you've truly studied for 7.5 years and aren't fluent yet, you might be using a very inefficient learning process. Maye find some foreigners who learned Japanese as a second language well there and ask them to explain their processes to you? I was fully fluent 2 years in, 7.5 seems unusual to me.

iN7h33nD · 2012-05-26T15:28:15.377829+00:00

Hey dude, thanks for posting this. You asked about places to sarge... it's easy really - anywhere where there are women! How about the beach, for example?

Focus on having fun first and meeting women second and you'll do just fine. Looking forward to lots of FRs!

OKCGoaway · 2012-05-25T13:30:49.988195-07:00

low quality okcupid girls

Considering you've never seen a profile or picture of any OK Cupid girl I've ever spoken to, I'm going to have to assume you are saying all girls on OK Cupid are low quality. That seems like a pretty harsh judgment to make about millions of people, wouldn't you say?

He is on a date. It is extremely rude and disrespectful to go off with someone else during one

Fair enough. So let me ask you... Which is more constructive... Blaming it on her for being an unfaithful slut (and taking no action as you're just a victim of her slutty ways), or looking within oneself to see where one wasn't attractive enough to keep her from wandering off with another guy?

dieganExPat · 1 day

Hahaha I love the random FWB cameo.

I saw the pics of these girls and they looked cute. Big props, gentlemen :)

I am stealing the mind control routine... So money! God I miss BAS.

Was there anything in particular you did to make the friend trust you?

helpmelads · 1 day

Wait... he was going to fly to another city to meet a girl he met online? That seems beta as fuck... Combined with the fact that he lied to blow you off and didn't even have the respect to conceal it from you? Why do you want this guy again?

Anyway, no matter what you do, you will come across as low-value and easy to him. If you're okay with that, just say "Hey, let's try this again."

Speaking from personal experience, I begin to get very unattracted very quickly to girls who communicate that level of low self-worth to me. He might fuck you silly, but don't expect more than that. In fact, if that's all you're looking for, why not just frame it like that? "I'm gonna be upfront, I want to take a fuck-cation with you where we just fuck each other for 48 hours. How's next weekend?"

donggg · 1 day

Think about what value you are contributing. Good conversation? Jokes? Drugs? Dancing? etc.

If you have nothing of value to contribute, then you won't be welcomed. It's as simple as that. As far as the opener... approach, talk to some of the guys first and befriend them. Expect 2-3 minutes of awkwardness. Plow through and bring value! Try to be spontaneous and inject some life into their group. Be bold, nothing that happens in high school matters.

Kern0ing0owl · 1 day

Please repost this in /r/AskSeddit. BTW anime cons are like shooting fish in a barrel. It's a bunch of horny girls and uber-beta guys. Just approach, approach, approach and you should be fine. Your opener can be "OMG HI, WHO ARE YOU?"

BlazedDovahkiin · 1 day

Ultimately with my girl we landed on an open relationship, so it worked out well in the end.

But prior to that, we basically said:

"Look, we trust each other. I'm not going to grill you about what you're doing and who you're seeing, and I don't expect you to do the same to me. We love each other and we'll be together soon. Let's talk as much as we can on skype."

And then leave it at that. If you truly value each other, you won't even think about that shit. Right now my girl is 7000 miles away and I couldn't give a shit if she's taking 4 dicks up the ass because she's my girl and we've made a commitment in trust together. That's true love, dude.

You guys need to strengthen your trust. As things are now, I don't think you guys would be capable of lasting years in a LDR (and you never know what the future may hold).

BlazedDovahkiin · 1 day

You've studied pickup so what I am going to say should resonate deeply with you.

I think i'd be more comfortable if it was public that she had a boyfriend

So fucking tell her that! You are a man who lives by YOUR values and doesn't tolerate having your boundaries violated. You are not being honest to yourself if you want her to tell everyone you are her boyfriend but allowing her not to. That's putting her on a pedestal and ultimately unattractive.

but as long as shes giving me her affection I think I can deal with it.

Holy shit, dude. Re-read that. Do you see how needy you just sounded? You have to cut that neediness out like a cancer or you're going to get fucked over and it will be YOUR fault. Do you understand what I mean by this?

(BTW I've successfully been in LDRs for many years, it's possible to do them well but they require a lack of neediness, clear boundaries and communication, and TRUST. You are lacking in all 3 counts as far as I can tell.)

BlazedDovahkiin · 1 day

Can't be a bad thing to chase that feeling, right?

Well, yes and no... Chasing it & embracing it is great. But if you're chasing it at the detriment of the rest of your social life (and it sounds like you are) while it may actually turn out to be unrequited feelings, then it could be very bad.

There are likely thousands and thousands of lovely women all around you. Go experience what they have to offer you. It'll help get your mind off your crush AND have the added benefit of lowering your neediness level down to a point where she might actually want to fuck you when she gets back in town.

I could go out on dates... but I really don't want to stir the pot. I'm content. I miss her like crazy and think about her a lot, and vice versa.

You are invested much more than she is. That is a MAJOR problem and most women will not have much attraction nor respect for guys who do that to them. I'm not saying she's not possibly an outlier... but I wouldn't bet against her falling for another guy while you're sitting around with your dick in your hand wondering what the fuck just happened.

OKCGoaway · 1 day

My point is to focus on ONLY the helpful advice, and skip the harmful, misogynistic, limiting beliefs. Try and be a good citizen of this subreddit. :)

OKCGoaway · 1 day

So your advice to OP could have been about your experience with keeping girls from getting to that point. Instead you took the "don't worry, she's just a slut and you're not as good looking as the guy she banged" route. That's where I took offense.

OKCGoaway · 1 day

The other thing no one pointed out yet... The "he started talking to her because he needed advice on his girl problems" move is CLASSIC Mystery Method pickup. It sounds to me like OP may have been AMOG'd by some dudes who probably read The Game and have been using it ever since lol. I just find that somewhat amusing.

OKCGoaway · 1 day

If a guy on a date would suddenly start flirting around and going back to another girl's place, he'd be considered the biggest asshole.

Not if the girl did major things during the date to justify him losing attraction towards her. Compounded by buying him alcohol all night and not intervening at all when the new suitors showed up to take advantage of a warmed-up, intoxicated target.

Anyway, my point is it does no good to place external blame for things you could have prevented. Chalk it up as a learning experience, and work to improve yourself for next time.

The reason I said your comment was so wrong was because it does nothing but perpetuates a victim-mentality "Oh, don't worry, she was probably a slutty bitch anyway and you don't stand a chance against better looking guys." That type of advice is very harmful because it doesn't give OP anything constructive to work on, and actually gives him (false) excuses to hide behind and ignore personal development. The name of the subreddit is dating_advice not "she's a ho, don't worry about it."

EDIT: The other thing worth pointing out is that comments like yours can perpetuate an air of anger towards women for embracing their sexuality. The fact of the matter is, she was drunk and likely slept with a guy whom she felt attraction and comfort towards. Placing labels on that behavior is negative and can foster into some serious misogyny if not kept in check.

TofuTofu · 1 day

muchas gracias

TofuTofu · 1 day

I have, no dice yet. We're working on a revamp of the /r/seduction local subreddits soon and we need either sidebar access or active mods. As of right now we have neither for /r/BostonSeddit :(

OKCGoaway · 1 day

Sure, no problem.

For starters, the girl he was with is an independent, single, non-committed woman. Neither her nor OP have any obligation to flirt/date/talk to/have sex with each other or any other person. Attraction, by nature, is something that we cannot fully control. You essentially called her a superficial bitch who would be likely to cheat. That's a major judgment call on your part. My suggestion is to stop judging others, full stop. Look for the good in people and when the world doesn't hand you what you want, look within yourself for why that might be the case.

Which brings me to my point to the OP... The situation didn't work out in his favor because of major mistakes he made. He demonstrated some very unattractive/over-invested behavior. I mean really... he told a woman whom he hadn't even slept with yet that he's cancelling all his other dates to be with her? That level of over-investment is one of the most unattractive qualities a man can demonstrate.

Then he was surprised when he watched her get drunk and flirt with other guys that she decided to go off with one of them? Even if the other guy was "more physically attractive," it wasn't because of looks - it was brought about by his neediness, supplication, and failure to take action when other guys made a pass at her. He basically handed her to him on a silver platter. He needs to chalk this up as a learning experience, not falsely place blame on the girl for being "a drunk version of her (that) is a bitch that flops for other guys."

If you always point blame outwardly, and never look within, you will never improve.

Anyway, I wrote a more detailed evaluation here:http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/u4j35/xpost_from_rdating_advice_someone_told_me_seddit/

Let me know if you have any questions or want to learn more.

SadAssDude · 1 day

I don't know if this was supposed to be sarcastic or what, but I never want to see another post so insulting to another sedditor or you will be banned post haste.

BlazedDovahkiin · 1 day

OK, calm down. Take deep breaths. You have textbook oneitis. My suggest is to use the search box in the upper right for "oneitis" and read all about it.

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