end of the school year dumpster diving

schwelvis · 2012-05-25T20:25:49.703059+00:00

I'd say it depends why you are opposed to it? Do you love landfills?

mooningduck · 1 day

Second to what another poster said: college is about balancing your time. Your employer will understand if you can't do it all, and if you approach her before she leaves town and let her know that your friend so-and-so is going to fill in WHILE HER MOM IS THERE it might go better than "BTW a stranger's gonna watch your kids".

Adults find solutions to their problems, and as you get older, get jobs and make friends, you'll find out who the adults really are.

Don't stress about this so much; it's all going to work out. You made three grand in two months. How long do you have to make the other two? Oh, and here is a site that might help.

That being said, this is one of the most stressful times in your life. Someone somewhere along the line told you that you need to go to college right now or you're fucked, and that you need to figure out what to do with your life by the time you graduate. That person was full of crap. Plan all you want, pick your direction, and then prepare to have all of you carefully structured ideas on what your path was "supposed to be" blown up by life.

Firefightinfonz · 1 day

That is totally a challenge I face every time. My boyfriend never used to do yoga and now he's lapped me about a million times over (he can chill in bakasana while I still have trouble with plank sometimes!), and I know that this is not just a yoga challenge for me, but a challenge in my life to be gracious and supportive of other people's skills. I know that the world is better because there are now more people doing yoga, but damn if I don't get competitive and petulant sometimes!

I might just be a bad girlfriend!

pibroch · 1 day

I'm almost positive it was some neighborhood kids (yoots!), since I'd imagine a homeless guy would have taken the change from the car too. So yeah, they cost me a window and half a day at work for a few smokes. And people wonder why I don't want to have kids! It's not just that I don't want kids, I REALLY don't want teenagers.

roastedbagel · 2 days

Was that something happening Prop 8? That screwed up a lot of plans.

Firefightinfonz · 2 days

There's a reason they call it a "practice", no matter what level you are! :)

Firefightinfonz · 2 days

Well said! In the book The Body Bears The Burden, the author (a psychologist and neurologist) talks about somatic disassociation and how it applies to debilitating whiplash injuries. He says, "I have found that the severity of a person's whiplash-related symptoms strongly correlates with his or her cumulative load of traumatic life experiences before the accident occurred."

But the good news is that increased awareness of pain is not the same as increased suffering. Once you find the source of your pain, you can seek it out more and more specifically, reducing the margins of that painful area until it is smaller, more manageable, and less intrusive into your daily life. But you have to feel that pain to know it, and if you don't know it, it will always be unbearable.

Firefightinfonz · 2 days

It brings you an awareness of your body. If you start feeling how your body can move, you start to develop a relationship with it, and slowly, over time, you want to abuse it less. Small changes will occur, like eating less at meals or eating different foods because you don't want to feel so sluggish and tired afterward. Smoking less cigarettes, drinking less alcohol, suddenly realizing that you don't want to do either all that much anymore. Feeling better about yourself and better equipped to move through life because you move through poses that are challenging, why not other challenges life offers?

It will benefit you as much as you allow it to benefit you. I hope you enjoy it! :)

pibroch · 2 days

I once had my car broken into for three packs of cigarettes that I'd left on the passenger seat. The cop who came to take the report said, "Maybe this is a sign you should quit smoking." I looked at him and said, "That's not going to happen today, sir."

hardlyaperson · 2 days

Thanks! It just seems that the OP has an opportunity to make things better, if not right, for his wife. If he leaves now, he's basically telling his wife, and himself, that he's unforgivable, which is going to tear him apart.

hardlyaperson · 2 days

It sounds like the same information I get when I volunteer with hospice patients; basically name, hospice diagnosis, and religion. Sure there are some notes if the case worker puts them in (which is rare), but usually I just meet up with another caregiver (care facility staff or their family, depending on where they're living) to get the rundown.

You're right, you don't really need much to go off of...it doesn't really matter if they had a stroke or a TBI, if they have dementia they have dementia!

hardlyaperson · 3 days

There's a fair bit of TBI crossover with stroke patients, too. Sometimes a slip-and-fall injury is hazy, since the doctors can't tell if they stroked and fell, or fell and the internal hemorrhaging caused a stroke. There was about a three-day window a week after the accident that the doctors were sure that my dad had a stroke that caused the accident. He had hit a deer, and when some of the swelling subsided they found that there was no stroke.

Before my dad was hurt, I never realized the scope of TBIs and their effects. Chances are they wouldn't put the TBI down, but would just list the aftereffects. That piece of paper is only so big, right?

hardlyaperson · 3 days

The range is almost as varied as mental illness...some injuries are inconvenient, some are obviously debilitating, and some are so subtle that the cognitive deficits are barely noticeable but will screw up their life so badly that their family will deal with the fallout for years.

Glad to hear that you don't have to deal with it often.

hardlyaperson · 3 days

I gotcha. Sorry to get all raised hackles on you, but TBIs are a sensitive subject for me. My dad sustained a TBI in a motorcycle accident and it's hard to deal with the lingering effects because TBIs are so misunderstood, even in the medical field. If I had a nickel for every time I heard, "We just have to wait and see, nobody really knows how the brain heals," I'd be a fucking millionaire.

xlptu · 3 days

The same way that I know that people are hungry but I don't have to eat a sandwich right this very second.

Suffering is a part of the human experience. To suffer because of someone else's experiences is to place judgement on those experiences, which is only serving your own ego.

hardlyaperson · 3 days

There's a lot more that goes into ongoing care beyond hygiene. Who makes sure her bills get paid on time? What if she gets a letter from the DMV that she doesn't understand and loses the title to her car? Who is responsible if she forgets she's about to enter a crosswalk and needs to wait for a light, causing an accident in which someone is injured? From the sound of what he's mentioned, she's going to at the very minimum need legal guardianship if he leaves, which is not something married couples need to worry about because he's the de facto guardian.

hardlyaperson · 3 days

Leaving your wife won't change the past, and if you do that you can never improve her situation. If you stay, you can make her life, and your life if you practice forgiving yourself, better.

hardlyaperson · 3 days

Why would you assume that she can take care of her daily life if she's occasionally losing touch with reality and forgetting when she is, if not where?

Slathbog · 3 days

TIL Mako had a last name. I thought he was like an aged, male, Japanese Madonna!

capslock · 5 days

Nice! A friend of mine started hooping, then spinning poi, then fire poi, then fire everything, as a hobby. Then she started a performance troupe, and has since been able to quit her job and run the troupe full time. So far they've been all over the world, met incredible people, and managed to pay rent by doing what they love.

So keep it up, life doesn't get any better than that! :D

lilnicky261 · 5 days

I've heard of pocket pits, but never tabletop pits!

kotooni · 5 days

Can I have a hug?

pandame · 5 days

Yeah, you're right, it's not really that young, especially considering people I went to school with have teenagers right now. I think it's cultural, too. Most of my friends are only starting to have kids in their 30s, so 21 just seems so young.

onthemoveagain · 6 days

Sure! They're not going anywhere. :)

shinjo101788 · 7 days

Look for someone who specializes in TMJ issues; they'll be most familiar with those muscles. If you're having a tough time finding MTs, try calling your local massage school and speaking with the staff and/or teachers. They may know of someone with that specialty (especially if they offer a TMJ disorder class!).

Good luck!

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