I've developed agoraphobia, how do I reverse it?

anx8932 · 2 days

I went through this five years ago. It was slow and insidious in it's onset and I didn't really realize how paralyzing and debilitating it was until it was too late. I was missing classes, flaking out on friends, and scaring my family.

For me, it took 1 year of daily antidepressants. Zoloft to be specific. The SSRIs decreased my anxiety enough that I broke the cycle and was able to advance past my agoraphobia.

It still pops up on occasion. Last night I had a particularly bad episode. However, I am still sometimes astonished that I can just leave my house- Just walk out the door and go about my day.

It can be done. Good luck!

vaex · 5 days

I share you problem! It takes 30 minutes to make my hair manageable, and it's shot after one fuck.

Also, my boyfriend kept half-waking-up, teasing me, fingering me and then falling back asleep all morning. This went on for 3 straight hours. It was unbearable.

prepping4zombies · 6 days

Not taking ownership of your thoughts can be very freeing, IMHO. If you consider them pieces of the collective consciousness and not reflections of yourself you can truly detach and gain insight. This has been my experience, anyway.

intheblindguard · 6 days

Pretty consistently. While driving on highways along ditches or over tall bridges I also catch myself thinking about how things would feel while the car was falling. It stops there. I am not truly suicidal, but it gives me a little rush.

Savetonight · 7 days

Haha no worries. I completely agree that my sex drive increases when I'm regularly getting myself off- but I have a harder time having "g-spot" orgasms when I've been using my bullet.

Good on you for knowing exactly what you need though!

thisismathrowawayacc · 7 days

I am in the same situation as you are. I finally told my boyfriend after a considerable amount of time had passed and I still have mixed feelings.

If he knows, it gives him more insight into your personality and behaviors. Like it or not, or experiences shape who we are. However, it might make him feel powerless and it could cause him to see you as a victim. He probably wants to "fix" things- and since that's impossible in this case changing the subject is the way he knows how to handle it.

Just make sure that you offer clear distinctions between his behaviors and the past assaults. Don't try to draw parallels. More than likely, what you are experiencing wouldn't effect you so much had it not been for the past sexual assaults and he needs to know that you don't see him as a threat. I wish I had better advice, but I'm working through the same issues. Good luck.

MiaScarlet · 13 days

I love it. It's visually pleasing and I love hearing how much he gets into it. The dominance factors doesn't do anything for me but I love seeing if I can make him cum without touching his dick.

adamsimon · 18 days

Fuck yes.

I orgasm incredibly hard when I'm riding le boyfriend with him in my ass and there is no degradation or dominance going on. It's an intensely satisfying feeling and I'm usually getting some excellent clitoral stimulation at the same time.

clearcover3598 · 23 days

Being clingy or the "nice guy" (trademark) is all about what you say and how you see her, not how long it takes to say it.

drunkdetective · 1 month

I live in a verrrry Republican state and I am decidedly liberal so I have a "Blue Girl Red State" bumper sticker. One beautiful fall day a man in a lifted pickup passed me in traffic, rolled down his window and yelled "Blue Girl, Red State, Communist Bitch!". The he sped away.

I didn't stop laughing for several minutes.

DBeacon · 1 month

A hairbrush with a ribbed handle was my favorite for quite a while in high school. I also bought a Neutrogena Wave. The shape was perfect to grind against and the vibrations were strong enough to get the job done. It also outlasted several vibrators.

oswalt4269 · 1 month

It doesn't seem like something you can really overcome. If only one of these things were a problem, then I'd say you could get past it but it seems like the perfect storm. Move on.

Besides, late 20s isn't old, you both still have time to move on and find someone who you are satisfied with.

Good luck.

Throw_back · 1 month

I've always been submissive but I've only let one man ever degrade me. It's a huge trust issue for me. Allowing him to treat me like I'm trash during a sex act only intensifies my feelings of security with him. He's allowed to treat me like that because I know he doesn't see me that way. I've never been sure of that with anyone else in my life.

dirtypenname · 1 month

I'm in. A little dirty talk never hurt anyone.

Bi chicks are welcome, yes?

Savetonight · 1 month

Thank you for the advice!

I usually meditate regularly, but I admit I've let that habit fall by the wayside in the past couple weeks. Also, I can take advantage of my gyms free yoga classes.

I'll give it a try. Thanks again!

nudiesss · 1 month

Since the manfriend has been out of town for a while and may be gone for even longer- I may have to try this. I've sent him some pics of my tits, but I am at a loss for what to do beyond that.

shanea5311 · 1 month

I have had nightmares about this scenario. However, I do wake up wet. The idea is repulsive and erotic all at the same time. That might be because I'm bisexual. The concept of participating is definitely much more arousing.

My philosophy is- if it gets you wet- enjoy it. :)

inbinbinb · 2 months

Once I am approaching orgasm I love it when the guy gets more bestial and forceful. I cum easily though.

It's all about reading her cues though. If she continues to get more aroused as you fuck her faster- by all means, continue.

Just like everything else- it varies. Ask. Work it into dirty talk?

Thatfire · 2 months

Unless you are trying for a transcendental experience- it seems like you are making great progress. You are calmer and more clear-headed when you emerge from your meditative state, correct? That's more than many can say.

However, if you aren't feeling fulfilled in your meditative practice feel free to try other forms/kinds of meditations. There is a would internet full of resources that can guide you down the right path. I've tried mindfulness, transcendental, and Zazen. All have their benefits IMHO.

Cheers and good luck with your meditation in the future!

Savetonight · 2 months

It reminded me of The Unbearable Lightness of Being- in that the first "girl" is light. She adds no weight of dimension. She is Sabina. The second is Tereza- all weight- just enough to take someone down with her. Especially interesting since Kundera noted that Tereza was apt to carry a book with her wherever she went.

I always wanted to be a Sabina.

Savetonight

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