I'm thinking about online dating. Any advice?

DontUseThrowaways · 1 day

Others have said it, but I'll reiterate -- Don't have super high expectations going in. If you go in thinking that you have to meet "the one", you may end up disappointed. I met a number of cool guys on okcupid, one of whom I dated for the better part of a year, but it takes a while. And you will probably meet a lot of cool girls that you just...aren't THAT attracted to, or you just don't see yourself dating seriously. I had a lot of first dates, very few second dates...

If I'm feeling lonely, I stay away from online dating because I get depressed that I'm not meeting theright people. But if I just feel like getting out, having a beer and conversation, meeting new people, it can be quite fun.

PERSON_PLACE · 2 days

I graduated from my Master's program last year, and our student speaker awkwardly broke into an opera song. It was...odd.

NeitherSeenNorHeard · 3 days

Mission Hill, and I work in Longwood.

NeitherSeenNorHeard · 3 days

I've heard good things about this place, and it is certainly convenient!

NeitherSeenNorHeard · 3 days

I do love click and clack...I was hoping for something a little more convenient to Boston proper, but, they are the best!

ramsinphoto · 16 days

Those are "animal fries" and they are a little piece of heaven.

onefourtwofour · 22 days

There is a really pretty flower called a ranunculus that comes in a lovely creamy white shade with green tones. I always like greens against dark purples, so I think that could look quite nice!

killer_sea_pony · 29 days

Some light reading for the occasional asshole. The independent reports on the pepper spraying incident have been released, and they cite the school administration and the police as being at fault. The gist of it is that the police overreacted, and were not even authorized to be using that pepper spray.

Quick read

And another

The full 190 page report

So, through a thorough investigation, the protesters were not really in the wrong here: WHAT ACTUALLY HAPPENED AS VERIFIED BY CRUZ REYNOSO, FORMER ASSOCIATE JUSTICE OF THE CALIFORNIA SUPREME COURT AND KROLL CONSULTING, A COMPANY THAT SPECIALIZES IN INVESTIGATIONS

jackiebird · 1 month

Spot on! Small goals, not overwhelming. Good feelings.

jackiebird · 1 month

I also have trouble with the "get motivated thing". Part of it is that I don't like to exercise in front of people (or in general), and my close friends that I would be willing to run with are WAY more in shape than I am -- I definitely couldn't keep up.

That said. I just started doing the couch 2 5k program (just a couple weeks in) -- A running regimen for those of us who are starting from 0. I go run at a park in a neighborhood where I don't know anyone, I put pandora on, and I use a c25k app (c25k lite) that tells me when I should be running and when I should be walking.

I'm not sure why I find this more doable than any other time i've tried to exercise regularly-- maybe it's because in my head I am saying "my phone told me to walk right now...so you people can't judge me!" -- but I've found it much easier to keep up with.

So I guess what worked for me is: * finding a location to be anonymous * using a structured exercise regimen and having an app for it * finding a regimen that is has reasonable expectations for my abilities

It just doesn't seem quite as daunting anymore. I'm not sure if this will work for you, but best of luck!

ladyyymadonna · 1 month

They are allowed on the T during "non-peak hours".

generic-name · 1 month

The weirdest, cutest thing ever. The frisbee dogs are also cool. Mostly, OP, go see dogs.

Droi · 1 month

Sure, I agree. All I'm saying is that I don't think the commenter meant it as literally as you took it. Like, these things are taught to us as history, but for some people, that "history" is part of their life story. I think the commenter was just marveling at that fact.

Droi · 1 month

I think s/he is just saying that WWII in many ways has been sensationalized in movies, etc., and that most of my generation's experience with WWII is through those dramatized portrayals. I think it's probably hard to imagine the atrocities that these people actually dealt with in RL when many of us (myself included) have led quite easy and privileged lives.

I doubt the poster actually meant that s/he couldn't do the math...

99-LS1-SS · 1 month

Welp. I'm not sleeping for a week.

NeitherSeenNorHeard · 1 month

Haha, I wish grandpa was still around so I could ask him the details! I'll have to get the story from my dad...

NeitherSeenNorHeard · 1 month

True story: My grandfather worked in management at Xerox/PARC at the time. They had some stuff going on with the PC, and my grandfather did not really want to show Steve Jobs all of it, but was told to do so by his boss... So it goes.

NeitherSeenNorHeard · 1 month

My roommate bought this W118 by Walter Baker trench on ebay, and it fits her so well. It's a slimmer cut, and the buttons are set a little closer than some of the other options, which makes it look smaller, I think. I wish there were more like this!

ghostofanimus · 1 month

I remember in middle school, my best friend was OBSESSED with planning her future wedding. She would buy tons of those wedding magazines, and clip out pictures and color themes, and flower arrangements and of course, the dresses. I was into it for a little bit, too, and then I realized that I was scared of boys so I kinda just quit. Also, jesus that shit is expensive!

NeitherSeenNorHeard · 1 month

That is great -- You and I are similar sizes; I'm just a little taller and a little heavier. I will definitely look into these, thanks!

jennythebear · 1 month

I use the Dr. Jart BB cream from Sephora. I like it a lot, but for me, it isn't the miracle product that some claim it to be. I use a little bit as a primer, then I top it with my tinted moisturizer (currently I use Laura Mercier oil free).

The BB cream definitely keeps my skin soft, and acts as a nice primer, but I can't use it by itself as a 1 step thing.

I have been interested in trying the Smashbox and/or Dior brands to see if those work better for me.

NeitherSeenNorHeard · 1 month

Yes, I like the lighter tan of the Merona jacket -- I will have to go check that out! Although, sometimes Merona things are a bit boxy on me. Can't beat the price, though...

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