A few years ago, on my 16th birthday, my Mom gave me a letter that she had written when she was 16. I think you ladies will like this.

scottylawls · 1 month

What is it with people sharing their private stuff on the internet? Surely reddit isn't the place to put your mothers personal letters.

portofcall · 1 month

I had tons of barbies when I was a kid, as well as dinosaurs, wrestlers, action men, my little ponies, polly pocket, and of course, street sharks.

At that age I was too young to even think about body image and unrealistic standards, it's just ridiculous to think that a toy can have such an impact. Do little boys look at action men and worry about not being beefy? I don't think so. My younger sister, on the other hand, hardly played with barbies and she's grown up to be the most image consious, body obsessed person I know. Her (and my own) image issues have had far much more to do with experiences with school and our peers.

Everyone always forgets about the boys too. Guys suffer from body image issues and the perpetuation of unrealistic standards of beauty, but I don't see anyone posting about the dangers of buying little boys action men...

Let kids be kids, if you start making them aware of these "issues" at such an early age you'll be doing more harm than good.

bibliovore · 1 month

The hilariousness of the article's wording was enough to distract me from the "clitoris curdling horror" of it all.

ticket_to_ride · 1 month

I can't get the vaccine, I'm too old apparantly (doctor won't give it to me since I'm over 18) and it costs £80 per dose if you want to go private, which I can't afford. Sucks.

emmuhmah · 1 month

I have tried to read one of them, but couldn't get through the first couple of pages. It was just terrible, I couldn't stand it. It's been on my shelf for years and I haven't picked it up since.

little-bird · 1 month

Indeed! Someone who agrees with me on TwoX, never thought I'd see the day.

little-bird · 1 month

I think if you're going to wear a fucking mini-skirt on a bike then you should expect to be stared at.

I agree with bluntbangs that to not look would be unnatural, it's just a part of life.

pax_mentis · 1 month

I live in a shitty part of London (council estate) where a lot of women tend to go bra-less, mostly out of sheer laziness and disregard for personal standards. I mean side boobs hanging out of tank tops, sagging breasts flopping around the tummy area, tits nearly spilling over shirts that are too small, young girls wearing the tinest little boob tubes...basically just horrible to see. When it is done tastefully, however, I think it can be ok. I personally don't like to do it because it's not comfortable, I'm not concered with any of that sexist stuff, I just don't care for it.

I also don't understand why some women complain about being objectified by men, look at, commented on, and yet want to go bra-less in a public area where your nipples are going to be showing and your tits are gonna be flapping around, that just seems like attention seeking to me.

I have been out bra-less, but only to walk the dog over in the woods or something, but I can't run or walk normally because of the discomfort, and I have relatively small boobs. Also, mine are really perky and it would be glaringly obvious that I wasn't wearing a bra with my nipples pointing upwards.

In conclusion...I don't think it is appropriate unless you can make disguise the fact that you are bra-less. You may not be trying to be provocative, but it will inevitably come across that way. Also, bras arent that expensive, where have you been shopping?

edwinhere · 1 month

I agree with you, if someone is asking for it, then you let them have it. I mean asking for it in the sense that they are threatening you, though, not just being annoying, however I would probably have done the same as you in that situation. I fucking hate bullies.

My dad slapped his ex in the face once when she was punching and scratching him during an argument, and she was a big girl (6ft, well built), is that wrong? Or should he have just taken the beating?

dothecreepuhh · 2 months

I'm suprised your GP hasn't arranged anything for you, have you spoken to them about it yet? Suicidal thoughts and feelings usually put you on the radar, so I'm quite shocked that nothing has been done for you. I live in the UK too, maybe it's an area thing, I'm down south and I've never heard of waiting times like that, even on the NHS.

I've known a few people who have gone to their GP for depression and have gotten fast-tracked through to therapy and medication without having to wait.

I'm also 22 and have suffered with mental health issues and suicidal thoughts, I wish I had gone to my doctor or told someone about it sooner.

I really feel for you and your situation and I hope in can get better in time.

QuackCandle078 · 2 months

Nope, third year, had my last class last week so I'm done with Goldsmiths now :P

scarfie634 · 2 months

Haha, awesome. My horse is pretty small, about 15.1, whereas I'm 5'11 and look ridiculous sitting on him. Luckily he has a very deep tummy so it doesn't look that bad. He's part thoroughbred and part new forest pony, very odd combo...makes for a very hairy winter coat lol.

My_Dog_Eats_Trees · 2 months

Thanks for replying to my comment, I should have been clearer about the type of catcalling I was talking about. To me, my experiences of catcalling have been very inoffensive, and I wouldn't personally label offensive or sexual remarks as catcalling. I think I have a very old fashioned way of looking at this. In truth, many of my opinions can be considered old fashioned so I'm not suprised they don't fit with the general opinion on this thread.

zeroeznonez · 2 months

I hope my mum can find some other hobbies, otherwise she will go crazy as she doesnt have the money to go out and socialize, she doesnt even have any friends anyway :-\

My_Dog_Eats_Trees · 2 months

Thanks, I was dubious about posting my opinion because I had a feeling it would end up this way. Is it my opinion that people are finding annoying, or the way I'm putting my opinion across? Maybe my opinion is just wrong haha.

My_Dog_Eats_Trees · 2 months

I think so too!

zeroeznonez · 2 months

Thanks :) I try and do my best by her whenever I can, I just wish I could do more, like buy her a house or something :(

My_Dog_Eats_Trees · 2 months

Maybe I did come across as dismissive, but I wasn't being dismissive towards other people's opinions, just the nature of cat calling itself because I think that the best way to overcome things if you are bothered by them is to not let them bother you, thereby dismissing them, in a way. I dismiss cat calls because they don't affect me in any way, that's all, but I can see how some people can be offended and upset by them.

Maybe I'm too laid back for my own good, I just don't get angry or offended very easily, and some people mistake that for me not caring.

MySeriousQuestion · 2 months

I'm also 5'11 and I have to agree that this gets me plenty of attention, especially when wearing heels and a skirt.

MySeriousQuestion · 2 months

Apparantly compliments are just as offensive as insults, so perhaps being really pretty is exactly the same as being really ugly...

But seriously...I have been called 'pretty' and I've always had a lot of male attention. People say I'm beautiful and I get asked out by guys all the time but this doesn't mean I'm happy in my skin. I was 20 when I got my first real boyfriend. I still feel insecure about my appearance and worry about how I look all the time. This is because I was very ugly as a teenager and was bullied all the way through school, I was called every name under the sun and abused at every opportunity. My self esteem still hasn't recovered even though I look completely different from my old teenage self. My acne still causes me greif even though I hide it well, and sometimes I feel so ugly I could cry...I can't even stand to see pictures of myself.

Whenever I'm out or at a party or something I'm always being hit on, and most of my male freinds have tried to date me at some point, but I still worry that they are just trying to trick me or humiliate me in some way.

Being 'pretty' isn't great if you don't beleive it yourself, I don't feel pretty even though everyone else says I am.

conozcakat · 2 months

I walked staight into a pole outside my school during home time...hundreds of kids pouring out of the school gates were able to witness my humiliation as well as the massive lump that instantly formed on my forehead.

It took me a very long time to live that one down.

COntinentaLental · 2 months

Your own happiness is more important here. You have to be firm in your decision and make your intentions clear, don't give him any room to manipulate you or influence your decision. Make sure you are confident and absolutely sure what you want to do so that he has no chance to change your mind.

I think confidence in yourself is key in this situation as any sign that you are unsure will give him room to manipulate you further.

I have been in a similar situation myself, and I just had to cut him off cleanly.

Good luck! x

ellusion · 2 months

I got similar negative responses on another thread when I said I wasn't offended by cat calls, so I'm just as in the dark as you are.

I don't know why someone would be offended by a compliment, but I understand that some people think it would be weird to be approached by a stranger like that, and may feel a bit threatened by it.

moistcunt · 2 months

At least he's being honest.

ellusion · 2 months

Dare I get involved in a discussion like this again? Might as well!

I would react positively and thank him for it if I thought he was being sincere. I have complimented strangers before and it has always gone down well, such as if someone is wearing a really nice perfume, or they have amazing hair or something like that.

Admittedly, it is a little weird, but I'm not one to pass judgement and label people as creepy just because they don't fit the norm.

If someone approaches you in a bar or club and compliments you, it is less weird than someone doing it in the street, but I don't see any need to be offended by it.

I'm just a friendly person in general so interactions like this aren't difficult for me.

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