Do you feel like your birth control is being "held hostage" by doctors?

laymedown · 24 days

Really? The Planned Parenthoods in two states I've lived in will give you birth control prescriptions after a "oral consultation" where you go in and just talk to the doctor about your health and situation. It's about 1/3 of the price of a full exam, too.

ba113r1na · 25 days

Satire always has an agenda, whether it's to sell adspace, newspapers, books, magazines, CD's, tickets, products, or to start a revolution/change the way people think. It's not like satire exists in a vacuum....

ba113r1na · 25 days

It's kind of like Rupaul's drag race: it's a reality show contest that makes ridiculous fun of other reality show contests.

Delirious5 · 25 days

But he didn't really lie to you about it. He told you about it immediately the next morning. Plans change all the time. I'd be feeling a bit restricted if I told my partner I was going to go out with friends to do one thing, and wasn't allowed to be flexible with those plans.

The_SNL_Encyclopedia · 25 days

Maybe it would help to figure out what specifically you're insecure about? Are you unhappy with your figure? Find pictures of somebody with a similar shape being faaaaabulous. Not like your nose? Find a picture of someone with a similar shape that OWNS it.

blackmagickchick · 25 days

That's a really attractive picture of Peter Dinklage.

ba113r1na · 25 days

You know, I laughed, but that's because I was taking it as a satire of commercials objectifying women that are aimed with men. I thought that was brilliant and hilarious.

haidhere · 25 days

Some bouncers are douchebags. Most that I've worked with are pretty ok. There are also many reasons to be cynical when you're working at a bar. Belligerent drunks are a pain in the ass to work with.

I have a circus and often perform at a bar. 95% of our audience is awesome. But the 5% of falling down drunks who are possessed of a sense of absolute entitlement sometimes create a real headache. In my illustrious seven year career: drunks come into our changing area and try to take pictures. Drunks have tried to rush the stage and hump the performers. Drunks set their drink on their stage right under my feet as I'm balancing a three pound very sharp sword on my head. Drunks get too close to the stage for our fire performance permit and insurance, so we politely ask them to move back so the fire marshal won't shut the show down, and then they cross the chalk safety line like assholes as soon as my back is turned. Drunks pick up our very expensive, precision, sometimes dangerous equipment and swing it around while we yell at them to stop. We have brand new trapeze equipment; drunks haven't tried to climb it yet, but eventually, inevitably, we're going to have to pull a drunk off of it. Also, after our shows, my performers have had to deal with people trying to slip them roofies, groping them, and attacking them.

And what happens when you call them out? Oftentimes lies to excuse their behavior. Or some "fuck yous, I'm calling my lawyer, I'll DESTROY you!"

As somebody who is constantly dealing with liability questions, insurance, fire marshals on a crackdown spree, my city legal department, and bars/venues, I'll tell you it's a nightmare. So I'd like to take this girl's claim with a grain of salt and wonder if there wasn't some other problem: was the platform overloaded and over capacity? Was the girl so falling down drunk that there was a likelihood she would fall and injure herself and others? Had she been a nuisance earlier in the night? Had the bar been having trouble with other patrons on the dance platforms that night and they started cracking down with her?

That said, this might be a scuzzy meatmarket sort of establishment that only wants to promote a certain kind of image. I have no idea because the reporter in this case didn't get a comment from the bouncer or the bar, or even say that they tried to contact them. As a former journalist, that's lazy, and I don't want to get my internet pitchfork at the ready until I've heard more information. But if that's the case, it sucks. Don't go there, and get your friends to start boycotting. Vote with your dollars. Weight and attractiveness aren't protected classes, and really I don't think from a legal or logistical can of worms standpoint that they should be.

nerdologist · 25 days

You're normal. I've had to deal with natural disasters and ailing family members and their deaths before, and the stress and pressure is absolutely enormous. You're in survival mode. You've reached the point where unimportant drama, little bullshits, molehills and flakiness don't compare to the horrible situation you've found yourself in, and you start getting vocal about not being able to handle that kind of bother right now, this moment, when everything is falling apart.

I remember evacuating New Orleans ahead of hurricane Katrina. The week after I had the flu, had been in the same socks for three days, had barely slept, and had spent the day in a red cross shelter with people from the ninth ward who were a lot less fortunate than I was (I had the resources to get out, and family to take me in). At the time, we'd heard a rumor that our apartment was underwater. So I took my disaster food stamps and clothing vouchers and went shopping at kmart, where two women next to me were shopping for outfits to go to the football game that weekend. They got in a small tiff over who got to wear which pair of shorts. It was surreal. I wanted to shake them and scream, "DON'T YOU KNOW THIS IS ALL SUPERFICIAL BULLSHIT? DON'T YOU KNOW THE ENTIRE GULF COAST IS UNDERWATER AND PEOPLE ARE DYING AND I HAVE NO IDEA WHERE MY NEIGHBORS ARE??" But I didn't, because I knew that my experience was my pain and my reality, and to them, it was a blip on the evening news that didn't seem real.

Same thing after my dad died of cancer. A sassy comment by a waitress left me sobbing in tears for hours. My boyfriend took me out to lunch for valentine's day and a couple bickering over stupid shit at the next table made me unenduringly grumpy. I snapped at my dancers in rehearsal.

You are justifiably going to have a short fuse for a while. Your ability to handle stuff is full and probably overflowing. You seem pretty aware of it, and can tell people what you can't handle and what you need, and that's fair. It was good that you told your friend that she inconvenienced you for being a flake. That way she knows to be less of a flake next time to help you out. Now forgive her and move on. Do know that times like these will show you who your real friends are and the ones you can count on in the future to be there. Make sure you're taking care of yourself. Hugs to you and good luck.

haidhere · 25 days

This is also in the Daily Mail. Automatic grains of salt.

abundantplums · 25 days

Go to a health food store and find liquid iron. Iron absorbs better in liquid form, and it's usually combined with some other excellent vitamins. Always gives me a boost and helps clear some of the brain fog.

ItWillBeMine · 26 days

I have a very good friend who was a flight controller for NASA, laid off with everyone else last year. I asked him what he thought of privatization vs. government programs, and he says that eventually we will need both running side by side. But the only way to get private companies to invest in private space flight is to wean them off the government contractor teat.

In the meantime, good thing he also had a masters in music. He's gigging and keeping the mortgage paid while he searches for jobs in a market flooded with aerospace engineers.

ItWillBeMine · 26 days

Read Rise of the Creative Class by Richard Florida. The arts drive revitalization and make cities attractive to large corporations.

dbest1989 · 26 days

They were employees in a park.

dbest1989 · 26 days

Me as well. Every summer at my grandparents'. I was a military kid, so that was the closest thing I had to a stable homebase growing up.

dbest1989 · 26 days

Hahaha. My family has a lake house on the Bonneau side. I'm taking some circus performers down there this week to hang out and go scuba diving in the river. I'm packing my gun.

phillycheese · 26 days

It's for your protection, too. She may end up being a complete psycho hosebeast Fatal Attraction case, and you may end up regretting sending her the flowers before you got a chance to know her.

JustYourLuck · 26 days

What's the context of you using this word?

phillycheese · 26 days

Flowers would seem like overkill to me at this point. Think about it this way: she doesn't know you, or much about you, or your life, or enough to know if she even likes you yet. Give her a chance to get to know you and figure it out. If I go to a first date and the guy is already buying me presents (which make me feel a sense of obligation) or planning our next ten dates/wedding/children, it sets off alarm bells that this person is going to be super clingy and a problem to deal with if I don't end up returning the affection. Be cool! Not rushing and adding pressure is awesome! Being confident and chill is the sexiest thing ever!

Send flowers after a really awesome second or third date where she's been smiling a ton and you catch her staring at you.

helllfire · 26 days

Mine used to be super heavy, and then in high school I would throw up, have migraines and deal with absolutely horrendous cramps. I was on birth control for a long time.

I stopped eating wheat a few months back and it cleared up a ton of health problems, including my bad periods. They now last only about two days and I barely feel them.

Lyric_Boy · 26 days

I used to be shy about asking guys I was interested in out, but I got over it as I got older, gained confidence in myself, and stopped giving so much of an agonizing fuck what people think about me. And thank goodness I do, because most of the guys I ask out turn out to be either 1) too shy to ask me out or 2) clueless that I was giving them the signs.

So if I didn't ask them out, there was no way they were going to consider asking me out. If I didn't ask them out, I'd get no date. If I do ask them out, there's still a chance they'd say "no," but that's no worse off than I was before, right? And chances are, if he doesn't say yes for whatever reason, he'll be kind and polite and give you a way to shrug it off gracefully, at which point you can mourn over ice cream and cookie dough and then find a new crush.

The best way to do this is to ease in gracefully. If you beat them over the head with affection and adoration and try to go straight to candlelight dinner, there's a chance they may get overwhelmed and hit the eject button. I get asked out a fair bit, and if a guy seems a bit too eager and clingy, it sets off my alarm bells that I'm going to end up with a puppy dog stalker (or worse) on my hands. But if a guy asks me out and is laid back and cool and not putting too much pressure on the situation, I'll usually say yes, whether he's setting my tummy aflutter or not.

So I take what I know makes me feel more comfortable and return the favor. If you don't know him that well, strike up a conversation with him and casually ask if he'd like to get coffee or a drink sometime. You can do this over chat, too, if that's common for you. Gauge his reaction. If he seems cool with it, get his number/email/ask if next Tuesday is open. Clinch the deal and schedule it or you'll chicken out again and it will be this nebulous thing that never happens. If that seems a little too intimate and scary, or if you already know him better than the "I want to get to know more about you while sharing basic life stories over coffee" phase, find an event that you want to go to and casually invite him along. "Hey, there's this concert I want to go to; you should come." Or "Hey, I've been wanting to see this movie and don't have anyone to go with. Want to come with me?" If you do that, he may not understand that it's a full on date, so treat it like a halfway kinda sorta date and see how it goes. If it goes well, at the end of it when you're going your separate ways, say you've had a great time and wonder if he'd like to go out to dinner or something sometime (but only if this is true).

And if you go on a date or three, and you find out he's not what you were expecting, sets off alarm bells, or you just weren't as attracted to the real him as much as the fantasy him, and he seems to feel the same way, you can probably just taper it off and let it peter out. BUT if he gets really into you after all and keeps wanting to get together, please gently tell them that you enjoy their company but you just aren't feeling any chemistry, and hope you can still be friends.

Hope this helps! Good luck, and update us!

sean_of_the_dead · 27 days

Fuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuck. I'm going down to my family's lakehouse in Bonneau this week. Will pack the gun now.

Sheesh.

FrowWaWay · 27 days

I have a .38 revolver in the house and a pit bull mix. Keep your doors locked at all times, even when you're home.

Walking to my car, I get somebody to walk me if they can. Keep keys in my hand. Pepperspray in my purse.

julieb123 · 1 month

Go to a doctor and ask for Silvadene (silver sulfadiazine). That's what my fire performance team uses for all our burns. Works quickly, heals faster, less scarring. If you can't get your hands on that, pure aloe is also helpful.

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