I feel like a terrible girlfriend.

WilWheatonMustDie · 3 months

he. is. taking. advantage. of. you. Stop letting him! It's utter bullshit for him to say he finds it gross but then expects you to love sucking him off. Him crying....is an act because he knows he can take advantage of your unwillingness to stand up for yourself. If he really cared and felt bad when you brought it up he wouldn't just cry and then use that as a way to guilt you into doing what he wants anyway. Stand up for yourself! Tell him he's being selfish, immature, and manipulative. Don't let him guilt you into doing something you're not comfortable doing! He's being controlling and abusive (depending on your personal definition of the word, in my opinion, this is abuse) and don't put up with it.

trih3lix · 3 months

Say you can't give it to him any more because you find it gross, watch how quickly he changes his mind. Source: I'm a man.

cachinnate · 3 months

You don't have to do anything you don't want to. Don't let him trick you into anything. I think you need to break up with him and try dating someone who respects you.

silverscreemer · 3 months

You are an awesome girlfriend.

Not every guy thinks it's gross you know :)

Find a guy that actually likes you.

cheester · 3 months

I swear to god. I see girls going out with the worlds biggest mommas boys. Holy shit where are you? I'll do it!

worktossaway · 3 months

If he cries again when you bring it up, walk away and tell him the discussion can resume when he's ready to act like an adult in an adult relationship.

InfinitelyThirsting · 3 months

So he's never even tried it with you? Every girl tastes different. Maybe he was traumatised by something, but that's no excuse. Make it easy on him. Take a shower first. And if he doesn't do it, stop giving him oral until he does. He doesn't have to go down on you after a marathon, but if he can't lick that flower when it's inarguably fresh and clean, that's his problem. He's a jerk for not trying at all. Make it easy, but if he still refuses, realise that means he doesn't respect you or care about your feelings.

OtherMikeP · 3 months

Isn't him crying about not wanting to go down on you a huge turn off?

OM4E098 · 3 months

he... cries?

Fat_Alberta · 3 months

There's nothing selfish about telling somebody else they're being selfish. Call him out on it. It's not like you're intentionally trying to hurt or emasculate him. The goal of physical intimacy should be to provide a mutually pleasing experience. I'm not always crazy about oral, but I love pleasing my girlfriend. He should man up and do the same.

mgnplz · 3 months

He cried? Sounds like manipulation to me.

perry_cox · 3 months

Come to /r/sex, there were few post like this in the past. (I'm really sorry that I can't provide links right now.)

Matchphoria · 3 months

You have to ask yourself if receiving oral is an important enough issue to you to end a relationship over. If it is, then its definitely something you should bring up. What I'm trying to say is sometimes partners like different things and find different things extremely important in the sack. Does he do anything else that you ask him to do? Also, if he truly is disgusted by it, there are toys you two can get that he can use on you that simulate the oral experience. Kind of a compromise. I dunno if this helps at, but I hope it does. Good luck!

reverendchubbs · 3 months

My ex was the same way. I'm not a fan of giving oral. But it's the only way she'll get off (or so she says). So every time we had sex, I'd go down afterwords. I never received reciprocation. Which sucked, because I love blowjobs, much more than sex.

One time, we were playing some poker, and were betting stuff like massages, oral, and the like. I won 6 blowjobs, and 11 massages. I think I got 2 massages in the next 6 months, whereas I gave her one at least every two weeks. Finally, I said "No, I won't do that anymore. You bet me massages and blowjobs, don't give them, and expect me to give you one whenever you decide? No, fuck that. Either start paying up, or that's it." I got those 2 massages after that, and ended up breaking it off for that and many other reasons.

Raptor007 · 3 months

I cannot understand why a straight guy would not want to go down on a girl. This is my biggest turn-on. I had to break it off with with a girl once because she didn't like receiving oral sex... it's a very important part of my sex life to give oral.

Yafrovon · 3 months

It's disgusting??? I fucking love going down on my SO.

aprylraine · 3 months

Also from TN here. I had a boyfriend in college that, looking back on it, I realize was emotionally and psychologically abusive. He used to use crying to con me into doing whatever he wanted or would find a way to turn things he did wrong into my fault. I fell for it every time for 3 straight years.

When you're in the relationship, you put up with it because you think that they have to love you like you love them, so surely they can't be as bad as the people around you say. It wasn't until I nearly drowned in a tubing accident (short version, my brother had to pull me and my sister out of the river where a bunch of branches had fallen) and he didn't even care enough to come see me (but drove to a hot dog roast at his friend's house 1.5 hours drive from his home) that I finally wised up and ended the relationship.

You may be able to work through this as a couple, but more than likely, he isn't going to change. :-( You need to do what's best for you.

osteenq · 3 months

Seriously, is this a joke?

Because if it's not, you're making yourself into one.

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