Are random hookups worth it? Especially for first time?

Tango_Mike_Foxtrot · 3 months

For your very first time I'd say no.... after that... go to town.

SigmaDraconisIV · 3 months

I'd say yes. First times are generally not fantastic, and what better way to practice than on someone you'll never see again?

jelly_wobble_head · 3 months

My first proper gay sexy time was a one night stand, to be honest it completely wasn't an issue for me. I think it depends how mature you are and your attitude to sex, some people can find it hard to remove the emotional attachment from sex and if it's your first time you can't know for sure if you're going to struggle with it.

If you go for it play safe and don't do anything you don't want to.

bearvivant · 3 months

No one ever has that perfect first time, in my opinion. I'd say go for it, only go as far as you want to (but there's no harm in pushing your boundaries, and use a fucking condom.

korobatsu · 3 months

It all comes down to your personal views on sex and how casually it is to be had.

To some people, sex is just a fun thing you do with other people. To others, it has a deeper meaning. There's no right or wrong point of view.

Personally, I see it as "just sex." There's nothing special to me about my first time or my hundredth time.

BigPeteB · 3 months

I'm 28, and still haven't made up my mind about whether they're worth it. So far it's just been me and my bf for the last 2 years.

DannyFathom · 3 months

Sounds like <Insert Australian City> Needs a meetup!

[deleted] · 3 months

I've been having similar thoughts lately, myself, though minus the grindr part since i don't have a smartphone. I'm not exactly expecting my first time to be that great so maybe it would be better to just get it over with...

SoberPandaren · 3 months

On a scale of 1 to Slut use a condom!

EarnestMalware · 3 months

Meh, my first, and second, and third, and fourth, and just about every one ever has been random. Do what you enjoy man.

hriaz · 3 months

Hmm I went the hookup route and now with my first boyfriend I find myself with small problems with my thinking that personally just isn't what I would have liked to have. It's a bit of an adjustment.

livefromavenues · 3 months

It depends on how much emphasis you put on sex. If you're the type of person wants to only be with a person that you'd being a relationship with, then okay, wait a bit. Personally I believe that there is way to much pressure put on to "the first time". Feel free to loose it, be safe, don't let the guy be an asshole, and you should be good to go. For the love of god, use a condom. They're not glamorous, but there are some secretly dirty dirty people out there.

Honeymaid · 3 months

Mine was, or ended up being so. Whatever you do BE safe, no matter WHAT!

stilig · 3 months

If your first sex is random and maybe not so special, all that means is you get no "special first" memories. I am not sure what that really means but you should figure out if you think it might mean a lot to you. But Sex isn't a special fragile flower, it is yours, you do what you want with it and it is not fragile.

lurkerbear · 3 months

It's a personal thing and can be only answered by yourself and whether on not you are comfortable with it. Some people view sex as practically as just an expression and act, some view sex as an only after x amount of dates. Just do whatever you feel comfortable with.

IsambardPrince · 3 months

Fuck no

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