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[–]LulzAndHappinessGrand Nipple Inquisitor 10 points11 points ago

Forgive me for copy-pasting what I wrote in a previous thread, but I feel the information hasn't changed:

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I've only been using the app for a short time, but here are my instructions:

  1. Download the app.
  2. Put up as much information as you're willing to give (height/weight/age). I put more information up because I like people that are comfortable enough to put theirs up as well.
  3. Put up a message that either reveals something about your personality or explains your intentions (are you looking only for friends, looking to hook-up, what kind of guys you're interested in).
  4. Choose an image for your profile. People respond a lot more to a picture that shows your face, regardless if you're looking for sex or just to chat.
  5. Wait for people to message you or be proactive and message others.
  6. Profit

Now here are my findings/advice:

  1. Most people are genuinely nice. The number of people I've had easy-going conversations with far outweigh the creeps.
  2. People lie about their age/stats all the time, though it's usually just a fudging of the numbers. Don't feel bad asking for more pics to get a better idea of what the person looks like. If you only get 1 type of picture (all face pics, all pics posed in the same way), that's generally a sign that they're hiding something.
  3. Always establish people's intentions. Some are looking just for sex, some are looking for friends, and some are looking for relationships. Most people want to just connect (not necessarily sexually) with other gay guys in their area, and apps like grindr help with that. But if your intentions don't match up with a guy, then it's fine to let him know and stop a conversation, since it'll be better for both parties.
  4. Don't feel bad if people don't message back. There are many different reasons someone won't message back: they're busy/working, they only log in on the weekends, they're talking to someone else, they set their phone down to do something else. Them not liking you is only one of the many many reasons they might not respond (and frankly, it's better they don't respond than to try to be nice and end up stringing you along).
  5. Conversations can turn NSFW very very fast. Don't use the app if you get offended by questions/comments of a sexual nature (even if you're not looking for that).
  6. YOU ARE NEVER OBLIGATED TO MEET ANYONE. Do what makes you comfortable. If anyone makes you feel uncomfortable, block them. That's what the button is for.

I can go on, but this is a book now. PM if you have any other questions. I've only used the app for a short time but I have made friends with guys online and have met guys off of it with varying success.

[–]ClemsonTiger1 5 points6 points ago

I'm gonna add one if that's ok.

Use your brain (the logical side) before deciding whether or not you want to meet someone. If he seems sketchy, he probably is! If you go for it be careful and above all use protection! I know a few guys in my area that lie about their HIV status on Grindr because they know no one wants to have sex with a guy who's HIV+. Not saying everyone does this (in fact most people would never), just saying those kinds of guys are out there, so please be careful and look before you leap! :)

[–]LulzAndHappinessGrand Nipple Inquisitor 3 points4 points ago

That's really good advice. But to add to that, never take anyone's word on their HIV status as fact. This applies to every person—guy or girl, gay or straight or queer/bi/other/what-have-you, etc. This also applies to every situation, whether you chat on grindr or meet at a bar/club or through mutual friends, etc. People lie, not know their status, or have gotten infected recently and their tests doesn't show it yet. Obviously, this doesn't apply to long-term and monogamous relationships (where that's a whole other trust issue), but we're not talking about here. Approach people on grindr the same you would if you were to talk to strangers in meatspace.

[–]revolvingclosetdoor 3 points4 points ago

You will find so many creeps. Some are genuinely good guys.

The block button is your friend.

Ultimately it's up to you and what you want. If you're looking to meet new people sans a hook-up, you'll definitely find it here. If you're looking for a post break-up binge, you'll find it doubly so.

[–]whodatagain 1 point2 points ago

But you only get ten blocks a day (unless you pay for Xtra) so block wisely!