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Maybe 5% of FA is now single due to this? (self.ForeverAlone)
submitted 3 months ago by Black_Gold
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[–][deleted] 16 points17 points18 points 3 months ago
I already tried lowering my standards. When we were about to get it on, I couldnt get it up...
[–]pie-oh-my[] 3 points4 points5 points 3 months ago
This is exactly the problem with going down this route. I had a similar (perhaps stranger?) experience: we had sex, but I wasn't into it, and couldn't orgasm. After she did the second time we just stopped. Awkward
[–]sparktika 1 point2 points3 points 3 months ago
What was wrong with her, if I might ask?
[–]pie-oh-my[] 1 point2 points3 points 3 months ago
She was pretty overweight. I'm not shallow; if I liked her, it'd have been fine. But it was fwb.
Still, I surprised myself. And we weren't even drinking, so I had absolutely know excuse. There's no way for her not to take it personally. I felt bad.
[–]sparktika 0 points1 point2 points 3 months ago
It can happen even with someone you are attracted to. Yah, it isn't always just the weight...it can be that certain something.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 3 months ago
The first time me and my current GF did it I didn't finish up, and she's absolutely gorgeous.
Sometimes it just happens, maybe it was nerves? First time with a different person and all that.
[–]sparktika 2 points3 points4 points 3 months ago
What was wrong with her?
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 3 months ago
She wasnt that attractive. But I can usually overlook it. Hygiene was another big problem. Once something smells bad, I am very very turned off. This is why I am scared of dating BBWs. If not for this, I would be less fa.
[–]sparktika 4 points5 points6 points 3 months ago
Agree with the hygiene. I don't know if fat people smell worse or not. I did know a girl in high school that would use antiperspirant between her rolls after a shower. Also, there is a difference between chubs and obese.
[–]Black_Gold[S] 1 point2 points3 points 3 months ago
Then stay true but stay real, brah.
[–][deleted] 9 points10 points11 points 3 months ago
I don't have high standards, just low self esteem. Why bother asking people out when you don't think anyone will say yes?
[–]Black_Gold[S] 2 points3 points4 points 3 months ago
I wasn't speaking for myself but if you read my history I believe you won't see self esteem issues,just anti-social tendencies, misanthropy and social awkwardness. Anyway, I agree that when high standards occur,even if not on a conventional level (those who don't go for commercial beauty, status etc) it is a defense mechanism from someone who fears the strings attached. It can also be sabotage, so...
[–]bnb123 7 points8 points9 points 3 months ago
My standards are basic. A clean person that doesn't smell like asshole and isn't as dumb as a post. That's pretty much it.
[–]LordScoffingtonPhiladelphia 4 points5 points6 points 3 months ago
Fancy bastard, as long as she doesn't smell like hot turds in July I'll give her a shot!(though I can't guarantee results) Yes; I'm that pathetic.
Fair enough.
[–]theJavo 4 points5 points6 points 3 months ago*
i tried lowering my standards i ended up wasting my time on a person that treated me like shit, She liked me and i liked that about her so i forced myself to get attracted to her and then she started cheating on me. long story short 2 years wasted on a horrid bitch that i wouldnt have dated in the first place because i lowered my standards.
Keep your standards loyal to your self, it will take longer and force you to improve who YOU are but no more horrid bitches.
[–]Massive_Unit 4 points5 points6 points 3 months ago
My standards are a girl who keeps relatively clean and doesn't outweigh me by more than 50 lbs.
[–][deleted] 4 points5 points6 points 3 months ago
...and can handle your username.
I ROFL but I can see where you are coming from.
[–]Lord_Fancy_Words 0 points1 point2 points 3 months ago
Being in the United States and being 135 pounds as a 5'9" guy, my options are severely limited.
But dag nabbit, I'm not going to date somebody who's 5 inches shorter and pushing 200 pounds. >.>
[–]sunsunsun 4 points5 points6 points 3 months ago
Here's why I once had high standards: Because I was insecure as everliving fuck and I wanted to rationalize not pursuing women that I found to be attractive because I feared rejection / embarrasment / exposing myself as a weak person. As painful as being single is to me, it's also for the most part comfortable. It was me trying to turn the low road into a high road. I now have other reasons for being FA, but I now am brave enough to admit that standards play no part in it.
You have dignity. You prefer being alone to being in bad company.
Thanks, I appreciate it but I think this is even more rationalization. Not nearly as toxic of a rationalization, though. I stumbled upon the realization that there are "soul mates" for some people and not for others. I am the type of guy that would be happy with a lot of different women, not because I have low standards but because I am a very agreeable, open minded person who is open to new experiences. In the words of Love,
You know that I could be in love with almost everyone I think that people are The greatest fun
I suppose that I am a Forver Alone anomoly in that regard. I have grown to love huge parties and I can hold my own in a night club. There isn't really such a thing as bad company to me. But I can walk away in the morning feeling more lonely than ever.
Point taken. I appreciate the time you took to open up.
[–]cdchris12 2 points3 points4 points 3 months ago
Perhaps. Enjoy the upvote.
[–]dumpass 2 points3 points4 points 3 months ago
I can admit to this but only because I envision the perfect person WHO JUST DOESN'T EXIST
[–]icosa20 1 point2 points3 points 3 months ago
You'd think one of the characteristics of a "perfect" person is that they exist. :(
[–]werwer335needy 1 point2 points3 points 3 months ago
my standards are higher than what i can demand?
Explain it to me like I'm 5. PM me if you wish.
[–]osteenq 1 point2 points3 points 3 months ago
My standards are incredibly forgiving when compared with those of most women.
I've been attracted to chicks with visible mustaches.
[–]Black_Gold[S] 0 points1 point2 points 3 months ago
WOW! That reminded me of the guy who posted a complaint about his GF's whiskers but that turned out better than expected.
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I don't believe I implied that one should be with someone who he/she isn't attracted to. I'll check my history anyway.
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