Im about 10 weeks pregnant with my third. Before, at this point, everyone and their mother's sister's boyfriends babysitter knew. So far, no one but my family and one friend are in on our news.

The reason? On November 3rd (of 2011), our five year old son passed away. It was sudden and completely unexpected and as you can imagine broke everything normal about our life. He was our first, our sunshine, our perfect little hippie rock star soccer player . Tragedy doesn't begin to describe how bad is has been. The day after Christmas, I used a hpt and got a positive. We were stunned. I was on birth control (Micronor, the mini pill) and must have missed some days in all the chaos.

Now I'm nervous to tell my friends. I usually don't give a crap what other people think, but...now, I don't know. My sister in law asked when I told her "How were you even able to have sex?". I told her that my husband and I needed to feel like we were still alive, that we were actually still connected. I'm just so unsure how to handle whatever questions might come our way. Any advice or words of wisdom would be awesome. Thanks!