Do you still think about the one that got away? If so how long has it been?

0llylicious · 1 year

As cliche as it may sound, I feel as though at times she literally haunts me. There will be times when I'll realize I haven't though of her in months. Then there are times when those thoughts keep turning up. The worst is when I dream.

It's been 12 years.

brock_lee · 1 year

Yes. We dated for 4 months. I think about her often, 23 years later.

awrex · 1 year

21 years... Ruined me on redheads.. I still look her up {aka stalk} online on occasion... Great now I have to go stalk her again today!

splattypus · 1 year

its been about 9 years now, but i still remember how it went down quite frequently. i have just paid a little more attention, cared just a little bit more, maybe things would have turned out different. but i didnt, and it cost me the biggest catch of my life. she had to have been a seventy, maybe even eighty pound catfish. if i hadnt been dozing off, i might have set the hook and landed her. i still mourn that loss every time i go to our spot.

oh, wait. we were talking about relationships werent we? yeah, i still think about her, too. but she hasnt quite completely gotten away. yet.

vajav · 1 year

I met Ron when I was 22, we dated until I was almost 24. We didn't talk again after that, until I was 26, when we reunited for a short period of time. It's been two years since he committed suicide, but I think about him every day.

HighlifeTTU · 1 year

One of my best friends in high school. We always had something for each other, but for some reason it never happened. Flash forward to 6 years later. She had done well on her acting career and was filming up in Canada. Out of the blue she contacted me and wanted me to come visit. She was going to show me the set and based on some of the messages it seemed like it wasn't just a visit as friends.

I booked the ticket, scheduled the vacation, even drove 4 hours to get my passport for the trip in a single day from the regional passport office.

A week before the trip I got back with my ex, who was absolutely terrible to me but incredibly talented at making me believe she would change. I ended up not going. I lost touch with my old friend and haven't talked to her much since then, and I don't really blame her. I always regret that decision, I wish I had stuck to my guns and gone on that trip. Even if nothing had happened, she was a great friend and I feel terrible for backing out of our plans.

karcass · 1 year

Oh yeah. Twenty years now. The famous exchange, after we graduated: Me: I always meant to ask you out. She: Why didn't you? I was waiting for you to ask me out.

DAMMIT!!!

Caedus_Vao · 1 year

I think about how important it is that the one I HAVE doesn't GET away.

Grandpajoe · 1 year

It's been 15 years and I still remember everything. I think of her about once a day. I still love her and would probably drop everything to be with her. I've had dozens of relationships and a kid since her, and she is still the one.

For the longest time it made me sad, that she was gone, that I had screwed it up, that it wouldn't work out. Now all the remains are the Bittersweet memories.

Ewalk · 1 year

I still think about her. She got taken from me by a tumor on her brain almost 4 years ago (seems like a lifetime. I actually had to stop and think about it.) and every year around this time I get jittery, horrible drunkenness, and just become a plain pain in the ass to everyone I know.

I've been meaning to say this on Reddit, but I didn't think it would be appropriate to post about it in a selfpost, but I will comment. It sucks, because every night I go to bed, I remember everything that happened for us to get together. I remember our first date, and when she said yes to getting married. I remember, vividly, the last time I saw her, and I can't help but break into tears. Overall its depressing, but I won't ever do something stupid, but it still hurts. Every time I think about it, I feel a horrible physical pain in my chest.

TL;DR Yes, 4 years.

VicePresidente · 1 year

I actually thought about her for about two years, but once I had a bad break up, we ended up reconnecting almost instantly. Now we're getting married!

baelwulf · 1 year

I used to. Then I saw a picture of her last week, 8 months pregnant and married, living in a shitty house in a shitty neighbourhood because she couldn't wait to finish school to have her little bundle of joy(and it was a planned pregnancy).

I dodged a bullet.

theytookmuhname · 1 year

Yeah. Lost her to a poorly worded and consequently misunderstood text message. Fucking ridiculous...

Grimsterr · 1 year

Yes, 20 years. I don't regret it but sometimes I'll let my mind wander and go "what if". She didn't "get away" she finally (after chasing her from 7th grade through graduation) went out with me, and I realized she was way too deep into drugs and I was wise enough to know my 18 year old self was not man enough to pull her out of her downward spiral.

Here's hoping she met someone who was.

Livin_The_Dream · 1 year

Yes I think about her all the time. We have been apart for about 4 years now. We had a fairy tale relationship. The way we met, lived, and loved was right out of the movies. I was always the guy that thought that could never happen in real life when watching those movies but mine was. I met her on a business trip that I was not supposed to be on, in a hotel that I was not supposed to be booked at and on a shift she was not supposed to have. Long distance relationship for a year and then she moved across state and were together another 4 years. Then I was a douche and blew it and we broke up and she moved back and I have not seen her since. I believe she was the one and I cant seem to get past that. For those who are thinking that I should chase her, I would but she is married.

OneCanOnlyGuess · 1 year

Thanks Reddit. And here I've been thinking lately it IS possible to get over that one.

Met her in high school. I've had high school crushes, but this one stuck. I never dated her and regretted a lot choices I made, such as never actually kissing her. That was 7 years ago.

I kissed her two days ago. It was a very surreal experience.

[deleted] · 1 year

"The one that got away" is a bit like death. Sure you could spend your days thinking about it, but in the end it doesn't do any good and only causes unnecessary stress.

serume · 1 year

about 3 years since initial contact, tried again 2 years ago, but I was the only one who still had feelings at that time..

I'm glad I'm not the only one. not so happy that we don't seem to get passed it..

Huge_Richard · 1 year

Dated for about 3 years all through college. Been about 4 years since then but still can't get her out of my mind, probably because I still keep in touch with her. In the back of my mind I always think we will get back together but I know we won't. Can't shake that young love and the way it felt, like they say the first love cuts the deepest.

Xhiro · 1 year

It's been a year and a month. I've finally reconciled the fact that I still think about her because there's no next one on the horizon. I was the one who was rejected (after being lied to), and even when I thought I had gotten over it 6 months later (had been pushed from my mind as I was finishing my bachelors degree and that took up almost all my attention) she tried coming back into my life with the "I only want to be friends." I think about being used; I think about being rejected; I think about my loneliness and isolation; I think about being 32 and that I'm probably going to die alone.

But yeah, she still rattles around in there, and I even believe that I wouldn't want to be with her now, as I couldn't trust her. I think about how badly I want the next one to show up to wash the taste of this one out of my mouth.

taco_nazi64 · 1 year

The one that got away...the great white buffalo.

[deleted] · 1 year

There was 2. One I think about here n there, very rarely. Been about 7 years since her.

The other...I hate her. I want to smash her head against a brick wall and have her stupid great dane eat her.

Spartan1170 · 1 year

5 1/2 years, in the military and been all around the world, still dream and think of her, even though she has a kid and all I'd still take her back in a heartbeat, Everytime I hear our song I have to leave my friends.....first and last love....

BadThoughtProcess · 1 year

Yes. About 2 years now... thanks jerk...

bearmace · 1 year

I'm actually rather disturbed that I don't have anyone that got away. I've dated quite a few people and looking back, the relationships were fine, but I'm fine not being with any of them.

I see posts about people in the perfect marriage and I think oh god, I hope I can get that, because it's not a guarantee.

chipps · 1 year

I had written a letter for a girl I really fucked things up with. To this day i think of mailing her but somehow I just can't do it.

stevietwoslice · 1 year

almost got away. The ol' chainsaw-down-the-stairs trick never fails.

Og_Gib_Der · 1 year

Yeah, it has been 3.33 years, not that I am counting or anything. Wonder if there was something I could've or should've done differently. She left me for a douchebag that she has been with ever since.

[deleted] · 1 year

21 years. We started dating towards the end of the semester. I came down with mono over the summer, wrote back and forth while I recuperated with relatives. Came back to school, and things weren't quite right. I still don't know what happened. She gave me the usual lines- it was her, not me, and that she didn't have enough time. We tried to stay friends, but it didn't work out and I made things a lot worse.

I've tried to reach out to her a few times; she's emailed me back, but it never really goes anywhere. We were so close- soulmates, I would say. I have no clue what happened, and wish I could get an answer from her as to what went on.

She ended up getting married, had a kid; divorced 4 years after getting hitched, and he got remarried real fast, while she's off on her own in a low-paying job. I've seen pictures of her- she went from gorgeous girl-next-door (I've found images of one Swedish(?) model that looks exactly like she used to) to fat-and-froggy, so there's a bit of schadenfreude there.

pv_ · 1 year

In middle school, a new girl came to our school. She took the same bus route as i did so we would talk every now and again. On the bus ride back, the "cool" kids in the back seats started doing truth or dare which turned into more of dare or dare. She dared me to kiss her, i did and it pretty much went on like that for the month. at one point she would sit down and talk to me about how guys loss there firmness when they get their balls sucked on. She asked me why, me being completely naive probably blood loss which would explain it going soft. She asked me to walk her home because she didnt want to walk herself..i told her i had to go to the library. she was gone the next day, people said she moved to California. What did i do at the library you say? played yahoo pool for hours.

what id give to go back and get laid.

slartybardfast · 1 year

Every day. About 1 Year and 3 Months. Some days I can appreciate what I had, others I get pissed off, and some days I kick myself for fucking it up in the first place.

KarmaDog6999 · 1 year

Nearly every day for the last 22 years, I have remembered Gerladina Ramona Sanchez, may she rest in peace, she never got to see her 40th birthday. Such a terrible waste of a beautiful life

Surfus · 1 year

Yes. Around 5 years ago. I was young and there will be plenty more.

CreepyCoyote · 1 year

It's been three years now...I sill think about hi every day. Every morning, every night. The only thing is that sometimes, I can't tell whether I'm thinking about the lie I thought was true, or the truth that doesn't know I exist. This girl took photos and information from a guy's myspace, copied his journal entries and life story even. She went on for months, pretending, lying. It was months after being rejected by "him" that I discovered that he was actually a she. It disturbed me. I felt like I'd been betrayed. When I found out that the guy I thought I knew was a lie, a friend pointed me to the original myspace. I wanted to speak to him. Tell him about what had happened. But I realized I would just sound crazy. This chick he'd never spoken to, telling him that she'd fallen in love with somebody masquerading as him. I decided to never look at the page again. I haven't spoke to the girl since. There's no closure in a situation like this. I wonder...what if I'd never found out? what if he actually had been real? Would things be any different? In my mind, I can't think of them as the same person. He was too real to me...she was a good actress. She'd copied someone else to a T. I miss him. I hate her.

thebestthebestthebes · 1 year

It's only been 6 weeks,and I broke up with her, but I was with her for three years and she was my best friend, and I still fall asleep with her on my mind. Sure, we had little problems, but they were things we could work on. In the end, it came down to distance and career.

I still read this Cracked motivator every few days to keep my spirits up.

"Many of you will get very depressed in your 20s, and some of you will stay that way the rest of your lives. Over the years your garage band will break up, you career dream will fall through, a girl will break your heart, you'll be unhappy with your body, you'll lose your parents, your favorite pet will die, you will endure at least one very terrible injury that requires hospitalization and breaks new boundaries for what kind of pain you thought was possible.

The reason why this will lead to depression, where it may not have done so for an equivalent person 200 years ago, is because you were raised on illogical stories where things always work out for the main character for utterly arbitrary reasons. Han Solo can shoot straight, but none of the bad guys can--even though they train more. John McClane beats the terrorists because he has toughness and perseverance--something the bad guys lack, even though they should be equally desperate. <b>If a guy and a girl are right for each other, they always wind up together, careers and geography and personal hang-ups be damned.</b>

Here's the problem: these fantasies were created by adults, as a means of escape from the real world. You, however, have been watching them since you were five--for most of us these were our first impressions of how the adult world works, even if on a subconscious level. You had no context to realize they were bullshit. It sounds frivolous, but that doesn't change the fact that some of you reading this will not survive the long process of learning how different the real world is.

If it helps, try to remember that you're still one of the one percent of humanity that was born in a time and place where there is such a thing as anesthesia"

Read more: http://www.cracked.com/article_18611_the-10-most-important-things-they-didnt-teach-you-in-school_p2.html#ixzz0xrLOlt2q

decemberwolf · 1 year

no, because thank fuck i didnt let her get away! we had been dating for a few weeks and i decided to nip it in the bud, no idea why! i told her i wasnt up for a relationship anymore and that we should see other people. come the morning I missed her so much that i told her i loved her and was probably the biggest idiot in history not to want to go out with her.

a year later we are still going strong and I am so glad i didnt go throught with the split. she is amazing! if i ever lose her, she will be the one that got away.

Zombie_Twatz · 1 year

No, but he thinks about me.

I still haven't replied to his last email.

simps984 · 1 year

One got away from me just last night. Apparently chloroform isn't as effective as I thought.

6995 · 1 year

Not so much anymore, but from time to time. It's been almost 15 years.

PublicStranger · 1 year

I've been very much in love with exes (one in particular), but once we broke up and I got over them, I was really over them. I have no idea what it's like to carry a torch for someone, and I doubt that it's within my capability.

moose09876 · 1 year

6 years, so far, but I am a better person because of it.

J-L-S · 1 year

Yes - 4 years

HolyKrap · 1 year

I just finished the Korean Drama, City Hall and all of your stories are making me sad! :(

youcanteatbullets · 1 year

Yes. About 2 months.

sexrockandroll · 1 year

Five years later, I went and got him back. Not sure if that counts, but I have to say I'm happier now.

baultista · 1 year

Not unless someone brings it up, or I happen to be talking about conquests past. It's only been about two years and change. I'm sure that in my head I've built her up to be far better than she actually was.

hooj · 1 year

Yes, 6 years, and things might be changing for the better soon.

AZRugger · 1 year

Pretty often, and I guess it's about 4 years.

It's a good thing though. I'm married to a wonderful woman who defines "classy". Really, it wasn't so much "the one who got away" and more that I dodged a bullet.

vajav · 1 year

im setting myself up for disaster. ive fallen for a girl who is amazing to me -- makes me so happy, we were very close friends for almost 2 years before finally getting together (we have spent a ton of time together already)

no chance of us being together for a long time -- she has to move away from new york for good in 1 year, i absolutely cannot leave this place. while she's been on business past month & half, we said "no long distance bullshit for us". both of us could get laid any time (she's really hot, i'll be honest. im not particularly good looking, but i can do ok for myself) and we've only been 'together' for 1 week total, we haven't even thought of others. we chat on the phone/on skype several times a day - firstly because she's one of my closest friends, and i would talk to her a lot anyway, and also now i just want to be with her all the time

its crazy to not have gone through the courtship phase at all. just imagine your close friend who knows your moods, who knows your pains .. now suddenly, she's the girl who satisfies me most physically too. amazing sex, amazingly fun times as always.

i don't know what will happen when she has to leave.

icexe · 1 year

I poured all my heart into our relationship, everything. Then out of nowhere she dumped me to "go find herself", which translated into moving in with some other guy a week later. It hurt me deeply for years. Then I heard she had an accident and is brain-damaged and totally dependent on her parents to feed and care for her. The guy she dumped me for dumped her right after it happened. Sometimes I feel bad for feeling vindicated.

F-Cloud · 1 year

I thought about her for fourteen years until we re-united and had our second relationship. The break-up long ago was particularly tragic for me; it changed me in negative ways. During the time we spent apart I doubt I went five minutes without some thought of her arising in my mind. I dreamed of her frequently, but the content of those dreams were always painful.

The second time around didn't last much longer than the first. We've been apart fourteen months now and I'm still thinking of her. Unfortunately, the dreams have returned as well. I'm the one that got away this time, but that hasn't made it any easier.

aphemix · 1 year

I live in the same house with the one that got away. Sitting in the same room watching the same TV shows a hundred million miles from one another. All she wants is division. All I want is her divided from her division. FML.

Niqulaz · 1 year

Nine years and spare change.

Even thinking about all the drama, all the teasing, all the playing me for a fool... If I was single and had the opportunity, I would probably anger-fuck her until furniture started breaking.

vypr · 1 year

Yes, it was about a week ago. I had the thing almost up to the boat, when it ripped the fly off, apparently the knot was the weakest link on the line. That trout had to be at least 25inches. My dinner that night wasn't as good as it could have been.

youralternatefuture · 1 year

Yes. I was a shy 20 year old virgin, and for some reason she fell for me. She was extrovert, easy-going and always had something cool going on. For nearly five months I was so afraid she would get bored of me that it stifled me. I didn't speak my mind, I didn't take any initiative whatsoever, I never even got her a birthday present because I felt nothing was perfect enough. Then she dumped me because we were too different. In a way it feels like she indeed got bored, but I still wonder how much of it was a selffulfilling prophecy. It's been about 16 months and we're both in different relationships but I don't think I will ever fully get over her. Having some close mutual friends doesn't really help either.

Nitero · 1 year

Kacie Underhill....man I fucked that one up...still think about it from time to time.

manipause · 1 year

Yes, 3 years. I was pretty much over it but I always think about her now and then. Honestly, I wish I could say I have completely given up hope, but not yet...

howlin · 1 year

I'm "the one who got away" to about 4 or 5 people right now. Its hard to even think about relationships without me thinking of the people who suffer over me.

skooma714 · 1 year

3 years since I last spoke to her, but I did all I could. I fucked it up by being an awkward 15/16/17 year old but I did all I could.

SarcasticGuy · 1 year

Oh man, she was a real beauty, a hell of a catch.

Admittedly, she was pretty large (don't judge me). My brother helped reel her in, while I went in for the catch (bro was a true wingman).

Unfortunately, I just wasn't prepared for her awesomeness, my equipment was too small, and before I knew it, she was gone.

I was really embarrassed, especially since my dad was watching the entire time. Next time I'll remember to bring a bigger net.

TL;DR: Tried to catch a flounder, too big too fit into the net, line broke. Went hungry that night. :'(

the_underdog · 1 year

I dated my best friend of 4 years. We broke up to go back to our respective (crazy) SOs, then hooked up the next time we were both single. He moved 1500 miles away and I no longer speak to him. I'm not sure if it is because of the relationship/distance or because we have simply grown apart, but it still hurts whenever I think about us.

I think about him regularly, and wonder what could have been. He is an amazing man and amazing boyfriend, and I always kick myself in the ass for letting him go.

ukyah · 1 year

20-life

EF08F67C-9ACD-49A2-B · 1 year

We dated in high school. I was totally in love with her. We had just started kissing, but weren't calling each other "boyfriend/girlfriend" yet.

A crazy girl asked me for sex upon meeting her for the first time. I told her I had a girlfriend. The crazy girl asked her if she was my girlfriend and then asked everyone else within just that day. She got very uncomfortable - and I didn't realize what was happening.

She told me that she didn't believe in being a "girlfriend". I started thinking of her as "not serious" about me. I started thinking she didn't think I was good enough for her.

I went off to college in another state. She started seeing someone else. We lost touch.

We found each other on Facebook. Now we are dating.

I wish I could have those years back.

conventionistG · 1 year

great white buffalo

[deleted] · 1 year

I think about my high school sweetheart every day, if only for a moment. It's been over 10 years.

imhereforanonymitty · 1 year

2 years. Dont ever cheat, even in different area codes. Fuck facebook.

funsizenotshort · 1 year

I was hung up on the first love for about 3 years, until I met Juan (get it? juan=one)XD. But meh my story doesn't belong here.I hope to God everyday that I never lose him.

wattodo · 1 year

yes, a few months

deutscher09 · 1 year

It's almost been 6 years since we dated. Still best friends. Still can't get her out of my head.

wearing_art · 1 year

We dated for 2.5 years. My high school sweetheart. That's been almost 20 years ago. I think of her quite often, actually. I ran into her for the first time last year and knew my feelings hadn't changed. It really hurts knowing that.

aolley · 1 year

doubtful many will read this (if any) but none of you are the person I know isn't here but still want to be. somehow

[deleted] · 1 year

It's been 8 years now shit thing is we met again recently and nearly got back together

Basically several folk from college met up as a mini reunion; sadly due to having had a seizure the evening before I was a bit peaky and had to leave. So we met up for a private catch up a couple of days later and proceeded to do so for the next 5 weeks or so every Sunday.

She asked for advice on guy which for me was time for me to get my finger out so in an attempt to ask without offending her and ruining the new friendship I used a rather long winded jigsaw metaphor which to my credit got the message across and panned out nicely.

Unfortunately she had been in a nasty relationship previously and wasn't too keen to get back into one at this point. She explained that I was the best relationship she'd had previously and that we just connect so as long as I was able to keep it cool it would probably pan out.

I've been single since we split up the last time through a mixture of no one else really comparing to here and a regressive phobia of the courting process. That is to say I progressively became crazy trying to understand wtf is going on in the situation. What starts as text message anxiety quickly evolves into a crippling, career destroying state of mind.

Anyway so skip the 5 months of digging my way out of the courting hole I'd created we are once again no longer talking.

tl;dr. I met the one as it were and had the chance 8 years later to get back with her but I am totally shit.

Who knows she may give me another chance in another 8 years. If nothing else the evening we went to see Kiss recently was the best night of my life.

salgat · 1 year

I don't believe in such a thing.

aolley · 1 year

nice try current one

jehzehcah · 1 year

I met a guy named Bob when I was in Job Corps back in 2003-2005 and I fell head over heels for him. I actually met a guy there before Bob, and then that guy graduated but we stayed together and I ended up cheating on him with Bob. Even though I'm happy with my new boyfriend I have now, I still think of Bob after 5 years and wish things couldve gone farther after we both graduated.

longdoggg · 1 year

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superGreatAwesome · 1 year

Yep. Man, it's been a long time now and I always think about how different things could have been if everything didn't come apart. Everything was working out so well, we hooked up as soon as we met and things just seemed to be going so smoothly. She was 24 inches or so I'd guess, but my damn line broke as I was trying to net her from the boat.

imonfire · 1 year

I am female, therefore I am the one who got away...

internetsuperstar · 1 year

These sob stories make me want to wretch.

The majority of you need to realize how selfish your perception of life is. The person you're pining after is either A. Toying with you until they find someone they really want B. Completely 100% not interested, that's why they're not with you right now.

If you're comfortable putting all of your effort, time and love into the small chance that this "one that got away" will settle for you, good luck. You (mostly) guys are the same idiots who think that by giving her a ring or knocking her up you're gonna lock her down good. All you're doing is assuring your own doom because it's all going to fall apart and when it does you're going to be so far gone you're not even going to know what hit you. You'll be one of those 32 year old losers who think that you're enduring the hardships of life, cigarette in one hand, bottle of whiskey in the other, when you're really just playing out the stereotype that you bought into from day one.

TL;DR - LET IT GO

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